Understanding Internal Forgiveness
Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger. It’s deciding, I will no longer allow this to disturb my peace or heart.
It’s not about receiving an apology. It’s more internal, more for your sanity.
Forgiveness is for your mental health. It allows you to move past a situation with less weight on your heart. It’s the release of hate or stress in your body. It’s an release, not an invitation. Say it again sis, it’s an release, not an invitation.
Some see forgiveness as reconciling. Oh since she/he said they forgave me, we can go back to how it used to be.
Na …
That’s not what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is when you mentally accept the truth and decide to move on from the situation. It doesn’t need a conversation. The other person doesn’t even have to know, I’m pretty sure the people I forgave have no idea. And I’ve forgiven many from my past.
I got tired of harboring hate in my heart. I used to ask myself like, girl, why are you still mad? You’re the only one hurting.
I’ve learned that forgiveness is an internal realization. When you forgive it’s for you and only you.
In life, we have to forgive a lot of people that don’t necessarily deserve it.
Some probably deserve to catch a fade every time you see them!
Whatever the situation is you have to find the strength to forgive. Not for them but for you. Why stress yourself out over someone who isn’t stressing over you? Why harbor any ill feelings when the situation isn’t going to change? Especially since you can’t change a person. Carrying that hate will make you hate everything else, trust me.
For a long time I was angry. Not understanding that it was because I was holding a lot of anger in. If you hold something in long enough it will eventually burst.
Even if you’re not thinking about the situation every day. That anger just builds up and comes out in situations that did nothing to deserve it.
That was my problem. Not that I was thinking about a grudge I had. The anger just manifested in me. Making me angry at the people closest to me.
Forgiveness and holding grudges are invisible to the eye. But both can live within you, whether you want it too or not. You have to decide to forgive for your own mental health. It’s not up to anyone else, and no one has to give you an apology for you to forgive them. You just need to make a decision and stick to it. You don’t have to be their friend or lover once you decide to forgive them either.
Forgiveness is closure. Forgiveness means choosing to live in peace. It’s freedom from the hurt.
Choose your peace over and over again. Life’s too short to live with hate.
xox Black Daria
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