Do you know what your love language is?
Love comes in many forms. Five of those forms are called, Love Languages. We all crave a certain expression of love. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you know how to love them, everyone is different.
Love language is an expression, an action served to you by the one you love. It’s when your partner comprehends what you need to feel loved, and he/she does that said action to prove their understanding. Dr. Gary author of The 5 Love Languages says, “by learning the five love languages, you and your lover will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other.” How many of you can say that you’re currently being loved the correct way? How many of you can say that you were never loved the corrected way? Imagine being in a relationship were you don’t have to keep reminding your lover the correct way to love you. It would be pure bliss. It can be possible when you know your love language, and when your partner is ready to acknowledge it.
So this brings me to ask, what is your love language? In what non-sexual way are you turned on?
Remember, love isn’t a saying. It’s an expression.
Quality time
Engaging in an activity together. Making time for each other before anything else. Quality time can be dates or just cuddling. It’s squeezing your partner in your busy schedule no matter how busy you are. Whether it’s just you two catching up on TV shows together or vibing out to music with good conversation.
Physical Touch
Do you like to be held or cuddled? Maybe you like to show affection in public like holding hands or kissing. Physical touch is a form of an affirmation that you are attracted to your partner. Without physical touch those who need this love language feel isolated when it’s not given. It’s as simple as a kiss or a hug.
Acts of service
An act of service is doing something that you know your partner would like. Acts of service mantras would be, actions speak louder than words. It’s when you comprehend your partners needs or wants. This could be washing the dishes as she cooks. Or cooking breakfast on a Saturday morning for her. It could even be as simple as asking if she/he needs help with whatever task they are doing. It does take time and attentiveness to know what type of act of service your partner would appreciate, but once you figure it out. The communication between you both strength.
Those who crave an act of service want to feel noticed and understood.
Gift Giving
Little or big, if you enjoy gifts you enjoy feeling appreciated. It doesn’t have to be materialistic either. It can simple as flowers. It’s a gesture that let’s you know, “I was thinking about you.” Those who desire gifts want to feel appreciated. They feel love is in a form of giving. Their mantra would be, show me how you feel about me.
Words of Affirmation
Your words are all you got. It gives reassurance in areas that seem unsure. Some people need to hear it from your mouth to feel that it’s true. It’s a verbal expression of love that shows you care. It can be as simple as, “You look beautiful today baby” or “I want you around all the time.” Words of affirmation connect with communication. People who crave words of affirmation desire transparency.
Love is beautiful, love can also be complicated. Love is an expression that you have to work at everyday for the one that means the most to you. Knowing your love language makes it easier for you to be loved the correct way and for you to love the correct way..
xox Black Daria
Here’s a snippet inside a woman’s mind when it comes to performing her love language. She knows what she wants, but does he? PRESS PLAY
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