This is your sign to check on your friends. They need love too.
Friendships change the older you get. You’ll start to see each other less. You’ll go through different situations in life, some too tough to talk about. Schedules start to not match up and sometimes feelings don’t either….
I always felt as if friendships and relationships go hand and hand. They both require you to care for and support each other. They survive off communication, loyalty, and accountability while still needing to feel appreciated.
Just like a relationship, friendships need to be nourished and loved on before they start to drift apart. It’s time we normalize friendships as being the same as relationships.
Hear me out, and not on no sexual shit.
You care about the other person’s feelings. You want to see them happy. You want them to be happy around you, and you want them to trust you.
“That’s a whole damn relationship.”
So, can we treat them as one? Especially, us women. We’re so quick to throw away our friendships but will stay with the same raggedy-ass man that you’re miserable with. We’re so quick to accept his apologies, but what about your home-girl?
Friendships that you care about MATTER. So instead of throwing them away or being too egotistical to give your girl another chance. Take care of those bonds. Love on them, support them, and make time for them just like you do for everything else you care about.
When you take care of the bonds around you. You take care of yourself. We all need friends. They are the family YOU create. They hold you up when no one seems to understand you, and the real ones might even tell you when you’re wrong.
Family is everything, but what I learned is, friends, make the world go ‘round.
Here are 8 reasons why you should you date your friends… in a very non-sexual way.
1.It’s training for a relationship. Friendships test your patience and your willingness to be vulnerable. If you can’t be vulnerable with your friends how can you expect to be that way in a relationship?
2.Dating your friends teaches you how to compromise. Just because that person is your best friend doesn’t mean they want to do the same shit you do.
“I’m the type of friend that’s down for anything so compromising is easy for me, maybe a little too damn easy. I have friends who love the party scene and ones who would rather have a night in. We compromise and make it work for all of us.”
Friendships and relationships shouldn’t be one-sided.
4.It’s a moment you all can just relax and have a good time together. No one’s stressed or upset about the plans because everything was pre-planned. For once you can sit down with your friends and not worry about what’s stressing you.
You get to know each other on a deeper level when you share experiences together. Just because you’re friends already doesn’t mean the bond can’t grow stronger.
5. It shows you care about friendship.
Lately, I’ve been noticing a lot of friendships around me die out. Whether it’s because of distance or busy schedules, but the reality is, who’s going to stay where they aren’t loved? Show your friendship a little more appreciation.
6. It helps a depressed friend find a reason to enjoy life again.
“I can’t tell you how many pictures I have from moments were I was super depressed. A lot of the time my girlfriend trips/dates saved me from going deeper into depression.”
Girlfriend dates save you from losing yourself when you’re going through a tough time. They remind you of who you are and give you an outlet to talk it out.
7. They give you the self-care you need. Who doesn’t love girl chat or being able to let your guard down? Sometimes the self-care you need is to meet up with your girls for a few hours.
8. They remind you to be yourself. It’s so easy to get lost in work, relationships, kids, and other bullshit from life that you forget who you are. Trust me your girlfriends will remind you of who you are when you’re around them. Sometimes you just need a friend to slap some sense into you, I know mine have.
The key to a successful girl’s date is to have friends that are GOOD TO YOU. When you’re around and when you’re not.
It’s so important to have real sisterhood bonds with the women around you. Us women battle with so much shit as it is, battling in “friendships” shouldn’t be one of them.
xox Black Daria