Common First Date Mistakes – You’re Probably Continuously Making

Dating is practice anyway.

Let’s face it, dating is difficult especially in the age of CoronaVirus and social media. We’re all trying to adapt to this new way of living. Not feeling as comfortable as we once were, but life has to go on. Especially our love lives. Whether you’re on zoom or in-person people are finding innovative ways to go on dates.

But in a world full of situationships and friends with benefits; do we really know if we’re doing it the right way? The answer is, we don’t. Clearly, that’s why we have so many entanglements and confusion when it comes to dating. There no longer is a direct guide to dating, I believe that book was buried when social media started trending. Today we rely on our intuition and lessons learned over the years.

Since giving dating somewhat of a try, I realized the saying;

“The little things matter.”

Applies with first dates as well. Whether you’re on zoom or in person. I never paid attention to how important the little things are until I acknowledged a few of my own.

So, if you’re dealing with someone you see potential in, take note of these common mistakes so you don’t make them on your first date.

Be on time for your first date.

First impressions mean everything, remember this person barely knows you so they won’t empathize with you. They might let you slide this time, but don’t get too upset if they don’t. Being late for your first date is equivalent to failing a quiz.

Be careful not to ask too many questions at once – it’s a date not an interrogation.

Obviously when you’re getting to know someone you have to ask questions, but make sure your date feels comfortable with the questions being asked. It’s one thing to be direct, it’s another to pry.

Learn to have zero expectations.

If you take anything from this post please let it be this. It’s always better to go on a date with an open-mind. You never know what’s going to happen. Stop reminiscing about what your past. Stop thinking about what your date should be doing and just go with the flow.

Be careful not to make the conversation all about you.

Of course when getting to know one another you have to brag about yourself a little bit, but always make sure you ask the same question back to your date. It shows that you are still interested. If you feel like you’re talking too much, find a common interest and talk about it.

Don’t overdress, dress for comfort.

I say this because a date can lead to different activities if everything goes well. I know you wouldn’t want to skip out on a walk around the lake because you have on 6in heels. Or have to pass up on going to the bar because you’re not dressed appropriately. When you dress comfortable, you feel comfortable which would make the date more enjoyable.

Be mindful of what food you eat, seafood is NOT a good idea

Although seafood is an aphrodisiac (my favorite one). I wouldn’t recommend having it on a first date. Your breath will smell and the fish scent will come out of your pores – a scent that perfume can’t hide.

“Dating is practice. Have fun, laugh at yourself and learn for the next one.”

xox Black Daria